In my last
post I wrote about Tobey Maguire and how I’m not sure why I developed such a
hard overwhelming crush on him. I wrote my next quest was to figure out his
personality type and that I thought he’s an introvert, but I wasn’t 100% sure.
Having watched him more in interviews and behind the scenes and having read
more articles about him, I’m starting to get a better picture. I’m not saying I’m
getting to know him well, because he’s really good at guarding his privacy and
personality.
I am quite
confident in saying he’s an introvert and a judger, based on MBTI. I’m not
going to back this up, because this is not a post about MBTI, nor his
personality. I would rather concentrate on how he matters to me right now, and
why I developed this crush.
As for most
people, 2020 and 2021 have been challenging for me. Unfortunately, I lost some
family members during these years. And not being able to go out and let off
steam and relax for a bit didn’t help. On top of that, my organization, or at
least the part I work in, is in massive transition on top of a shortage in
personnel on top of ongoing big projects. Oh yes, and then there was this
little thing called Covid19 demanding extra services from us. To say it’s been
a bit hectic and chaotic is a gross understatement.
All this
amounted to me pretty much having burnout. I needed an escape and Tobey gave me
that. I needed something positive and exciting in my life. I needed some inspiration
and motivation to keep going. And Tobey gave me that. Now you want to know how
he gave me that and trick me into talking about Tobey after all. Instead I will
give you this video:
I can add
my own two cents why that partnership between Tom, Andrew and Tobey is so
inspiring to me, but I think Jonathan said it all in the video.
This video is
from the channel “Mended Light”. I found them through the channel “CinemaTherapy”,
because he’s a host on both. I’m subscribed to “CinemaTherapy” and
I’m a member of their program here,
because I believe you can learn so much from them about your mental health and
relationships and how to keep both healthy or how to deal with problems in both.
Outside of Spider-man
(No Way Home or other) Tobey inspires me to keep reflecting, to keep learning,
to keep working on myself, to keep taking the difficult hurdles and take my
life in my own hands. Sometimes through the movies he’s in or the characters he
plays, but also through how he goes through and stands in life. Most people see
either a man they call Tobey but is really Peter Parker, or they see a man
making mistakes and getting angry and judge him for that.
When I look
at Tobey I see a man who, just like anyone, makes mistakes and sometimes
exhibits less than perfect behaviour, but he learns from it. Often you can see
patterns in people’s behaviour where they go back and forth between good and
bad habits. I don’t see that with Tobey. Tobey makes brand new mistakes from
time to time, reflects and then corrects. He is a man visibly learning from his
mistakes and I appreciate and admire that.
If you
compare No Way Home Tobey to Spider-man 1 Tobey, he’s much more comfortable and
content. Or at least he comes across as more comfortable and content. If you
compare his No Way Home demands to his Spider-man 2 demands you also see a
clear positive difference. His Spider-man 2 demands were self-serving (even
though because partly of health reasons/his back somewhat understandable and
his demand for higher salary) where his No Way Home demands were serving the
movie (he requested less exposition about his Peter, because it was Tom’s
movie, awwww).
It’s also
quite clear he’s a family man and he takes these responsibilities very serious.
He guards his family carefully, keeps them out of the public eye and won’t talk
much about them in public. I don’t have a very clear view on how he fathers,
but what I’ve seen of it, I like it. In this case (seeing) less is better.
I will say
one more thing about Tobey; his taste in movies matches mine beautifully. I
watched most movies he appears in now and I enjoyed most of them. I’m even willing
to go as far as saying that some of them have entered my list of favourite
movies overall. Quite a few of them I will revisit on a regular basis and not
just because Tobey is in it, but because I enjoy the story, characters and performances.
I like to
close this post with this from “CinemaTherapy”
about mental health problems caused by negative experiences: “It’s Not Your
Fault, but It is Your Responsibility.”
I really
wanted to add this, because it’s so true. Also, I can see Tobey took his
responsibility and therefore became a beautiful human being.
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